It was an interesting, surreal experience. I met a girl that had a boyfriend. More liberal lifestyle for sure. So girls will say they have a boyfriend for all sorts of reasons.
A lot of guys are looking for the trick to get past the boyfriend and there really is none. I used to get it a lot in the beginning, but it dropped off as I became more present and confident. And that happens for a lot of my clients, too. It did actually come up for me a while back, though.
I met a girl at the supplement store. She had a cute dog so I said hi and started joking with her. Open up to her about the things that matter to you. Just make sure that she's also opening up. After you tell her something that might be a bit private, you can say, "I haven't talked to anyone about that in a long time. It's just so easy to talk to you, for some reason. Be refreshing. Remember what we said about how the last thing she wants is another guy who is exactly like her boyfriend?
Well, it's absolutely true. Be spontaneous. Be fun. Don't call or text her every five minutes just to "check in". Come up with something completely random and fun that you can do together. Give her an original compliment or a funny little gift.
Ask her to dance in the middle of the street. Just do whatever a normal, boring old boyfriend wouldn't do. Make her feel alive every time the two of you are together. Don't be afraid to talk to her about something that you think may be a little random if it's funny or interesting.
You don't have to fit any kind of mold. Be persistent without being annoying. This is a delicate balance to find. You want her to know that you want her without coming on too strong or always being up in her grill. Talk to her at parties, walk alongside her after class, but do not become the guy that she can flirt and have some fun with before she comes home to her boyfriend.
Be around, let her know you're interested, but also let her see that you won't wait around forever for her to make the call. Get together with her. If you just flirt around with her for months, she'll think it's perfectly okay for her to have a guy to flirt with and a guy she is dating. Well, that's not cool, and the longer you go for this, the more she'll see that she can string you along without ever making a move.
So, it's time to make a move, have her respond, or get her to make a move already, whether it means kissing you and getting with her boyfriend. Ideally, of course, she'll break up with her boyfriend and then get with you. Seriously, the sooner this can happen, the better. If you've been flirting around for over a month, chances are, she'll never make the break.
Part 3. Take it slow. So, you've snagged the girl, she's dumped her old boyfriend, and now you've finally gotten what you want.
Does this mean you should go shopping for engagement rings or take a weekend trip to the Bahamas? Absolutely not! Even if the girl got out of a bad relationship, it's likely that she's still going over the break up, so give her some time and space.
If you try to hang out with her every second of every day, she's likely to feel overwhelmed and to back away.
Instead, give her space and hang out with her once or twice a week, or however many times she's ready for. You may think that she feels totally free and happy because she got rid of the dead weight in her life, but she'll still be dealing with pain, and the inevitable grief that comes from saying goodbye to something, even if it wasn't all that great, and you have to be understanding of that.
Though she shouldn't be the one to call or text you every time, make sure to give her some of the power. If you're the one who initiates contact every time, she may think that she's not ready for another boyfriend or for anything serious. Avoid talking about her ex-boyfriend. Whether she got out of a three month relationship with a real jerk or a five-year relationship with a nice but boring guy, you should never bring up the guy, especially if you want to make fun of him, call him a loser, remind her that he wasn't good enough for her, etc.
Though your intentions may be pure and you may just want to make her feel better about ending something that wasn't working, she may take this as an assault on her former relationship, and may be offended, because it's likely that she still has tender feelings for her ex.
Give it time. If she was in a five year relationship, then yeah, she may not be ready to talk about that part of her life for a long time. Maybe even a year will pass before she brings up her ex at all, because it will hurt too much to do it before hand.
Be patient. If you keep asking questions about her ex, you'll come off as jealous and she'll get annoyed. Yeah, there may be this whole part of her life that you don't have access to for a while because it has to do with her ex.
Nobody said snagging a girl with a boyfriend was easy, or that it didn't have consequences. But if you wait out this painful period, it'll be worth it. Don't get paranoid. Okay, so you grabbed a girl with a boyfriend, and only now does it dawn on you -- if she was able to cheat or just emotionally cheat on her boyfriend with another guy, then what will keep her from being unfaithful to you with the next guy who comes along?
Well, hopefully she got out of her last relationship because it was truly bad and because she saw something special in you, not because she was generally restless. If she has a pattern of this behavior, then that is something to worry about, but if not, unfortunately, the heart does wander sometimes if it's worth it. Your job is to focus on your new relationship instead of worrying that she's seeing someone on the side; if you're constantly jealous and paranoid because of the way that you met, then your newfound love will never wok.
For example, if she touches your hand or face when she talks to you or if you notice that she makes a lot of eye contact with you whenever you're around her, it could be a sign that she's interested in you.
However, the best way to find out is to simply ask her. It may seem scary, but if want to know for sure, it's the only way! Not Helpful 14 Helpful If you're interested in a girl who already has a boyfriend, you need to show her that you like her and that you would make a good boyfriend. Try telling her how you feel. Then, it's up to her to make the next move and break up with her boyfriend so you can have a romantic relationship with her.
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Toggle navigation. Not seeing the truth This special girl that really you like might have been flirting with you, been very friendly towards you and may have even given you the impression that she likes you or finds you attractive. The next mistake to avoid making when you like a girl who already has a boyfriend is… 2. Falling in love with her because you have no other options No one can tell you who you can and cannot like.
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